Over fifty dating
1 Relationships: Dating Over 50 - Part 1
2 5 Surprising Facts About Over 50 Dating
3 Dating after 50: Do's and Don'ts. What do men really want?
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Will the ex pay the utility bills? I’m deluged with compliments (I’m “stunning” and a “honey”) and requests for dates. you both fancy each other) guys can’t see your profile.
My first message is from someone I recognise and share Facebook friends with. And unless you are matched (i.e. Well, get over it! Especially for someone who barely has an online presence.
But 15 million people in the UK are registered for online dating and one in five relationships now start online. But he wants me to email him direct, which is not encouraged by the site and makes me suspicious. Several men are seeking women anywhere between 25 and 79. I go for the least level of exposure, with a black and white pic of me wearing sunglasses. I prefer Rajiv, who likes my “elegant and sophisticated look” and is looking for stimulating conversation. It is the Guardian after all.
A feature called Your Matches creates a list of compatible, potential dates. He’s wishing he could fly away to sunshine and golden beaches with me and moves quite quickly on to what oil I’d like for our candlelit bath… No, I’m not ready for this. It’s hard to find even a vaguely good-looking one, at least in the age-range I specified.
Being a Guardian reader, I assume this will be dominated by intelligent, solvent and liberal Guardian readers. Only Corona emails, saying he is solvent, a widower, and likes Daft Punk and Bowie. That means we have interests in common and fit into the right age bracket. He likes my tagline, Life Enhancer, and asks for photo of me without my sunglasses (he’d been on a date with someone who wore sunglasses in her photo and it turned out she had a glass eye). And completely superficial.
You sign on via Facebook so Tinder receives your public profile, friend list, email address, relationship interest, birthday, status updates and everything else. It’s ?29.99 a month (but there are various subscription options, and it’s cheaper per month if you sign up for longer). It’s more niche than Match.com so there is less traffic which means less potential dates. Subscription, to connect with dates, costs ?32 for a month, ?64 for three months or ?96 for six months.
On day one, I get six matches who are all in their fifties, rated an overall 75 per cent match with me. He implies he has enough money not to work but is bored being single and would like a companion to share his holidays and life with. Before you email the men, you ‘wink’ at them and they ‘wink’ back (you hope), so you know you’re chatting to a willing contender.
First up is Nottinghillbilly, pictured with messy hair, a beard and in a leather jacket. Think I’ll stay on this website forever; my ego is growing exponentially.
Perhaps it’s the age-group, perhaps it’s my new tagline, but these men are more comfortable with the idea of a face-to-face connection than endless digital interactions.
I have lots of banter and flirting with men, then a long interaction with Peter from Royston. How quickly I’ve got used to making snap judgements!
Pros The site is easy to negotiate and the men are more forthcoming in their descriptions of themselves.
Cons I don’t get many matches so feel a bit disheartened. Shameless self-promotion! The site asks questions about my looks, level of education, lifestyle and beliefs, and then the difficult bit: my ideal match.
Before you can contact the men they suggest, you must subscribe. Oh, wait…” Sounds amusing but his photo puts me off. Even my MA isn’t doing it.
DatingOver50s : there’s a lot of us out there
I face up to my fifties, take the bull by the horns and sign on to DatingOver50s. King’s Cross champagne bar, here we come..
Pros The men are confident, strike up conversations more quickly, and ask more interesting questions than on the other sites. Doing Something is a good idea: people say what they’d most like to do on a date, and have lots of fun ideas. We have similar taste in music and talk about the joys of travelling around the States. Like the sunglasses! Not bad, I think. Rosanna Dickinson tries online dating and reports on what it’s like and which dating sites were best
Some people try online dating because they’re looking for companionship, some for love, and some are tentatively dipping in a toe to see who’s out there. I find this disconcerting and rather too revealing, but soon get over it. A roll in the hay vs an encounter with a .
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High50 Holdings Limited is a company registered in England and Wales under company number 09010517.But there are too many choices and all in their twenties and thirties.
For a laugh I had a look at Toyboy Warehouse . I’m not ready for this site and probably never will be!
Men! In fact, we have completely matching sunglasses so obviously we’ll be married in no time at all. It’s the third most popular way to meet (after pubs and through friends). I feel more comfortable on this website than any of the others.
Cons Everybody is over 50!
Although the over-50s are fun, I want to see how I fare on a younger site so I download the Tinder app. As its name implies, it’s just about the sex. Will the lover chip in? .
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Pros Fast, fun and amusing.
Cons Time wasting and addictive.
PARSHIP and eHarmony offer long and detailed psychometric tests that, boringly, take hours to fill in. I’m still Life Enhancer but add that I have just finished an MA in English Literature. This is fun! But he only wants to chat and I don’t clinch a date.
Ellyleadguitarist sends a good email: “Hey you! It’s enough for me to agree to a date. Photos of men and boys in my area ping on to my screen and I can press a green heart if I fancy him or a red cross if I don’t. I did it because I wanted to have fun, flirt and meet men outside my social group.
I’m 50 and have been single for two years, since my husband died, and have a daughter of 21 and twin boys of 19.
Ready to date but don’t want to put yourself ‘out there’? The profiling asks no questions, just your email address and the age-range you’re interested in. I upload the same photo and answer the same questions and details as I did on Match.com. I also change my profile to “I like to banter and flirt and have fun”.
This is obviously the equivalent to saying “I’m available for sex right now” as I receive 83 messages, 140 winks and am 32 people’s favourite. And I could always go incognito when I’ve had enough – it’s the internet, after all!
There are an overwhelming 1,400 dating sites, though, so where to start? I felt some trepidation about putting myself out there. I don’t contact him again.
Pros There is a lot of choice of men and every day I get winks and emails, which makes me feel popular.
Cons They’re keen to interact but not to meet up.